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COVID-19: The Good & Bad Of Retreating Into A Bubble

The bubble is a temporary space into which we all must retreat at times. But spending too much time in a bubble can also create long lasting problems.

It may sound paradoxical, but often when we feel afraid and isolated, helplessness can become a familiar place, and even dangerously safe. When suffering from anxiety, loneliness, and emptiness, people will often retreat into a “bubble of misery.”

This bubble is a personal space decorated with one’s own individual fears, biases, and blame. Regardless, it is theirs and therefore more appealing than the uncertainly that resides outside of its borders.

The Protective Bubble

Biologically, fear serves a purpose.  It signals to us when there may be a threat within our environment. When signaled, it allows us to be sharp, vigilant, and improves our problem-solving ability.

But when the fear is constant, chronic, or shattering, our body becomes overwhelmed, fatigued and our ability to problem solve becomes seriously impaired.

The risk of retreating into a protective bubble is that vulnerable people may take up permanent residence there. It becomes a place in which they feel both safe and sad, and the longer one stays in the bubble, the safer it feels. As a result, life becomes more dysfunctional.

As a Psychiatrist, I treat people with serious mood and anxiety disorders that have developed strong “bubbles of misery.” These individuals become so habituated to living in this mental space that the thought of peeking outside of the bubble becomes terrifying.

COVID 19 with its demands for isolation and intense uncertainty pushes many further into their bubbles, worsening their ability to relate to themselves and others.

We all have or bubbles of misery. It is part of our evolved survival mechanism. However, one must be able to allow for subconscious entry into this safe space as well as an exit when danger subsides.

Anxiety and Empathy

Chronic anxiety and depression make us feel quite vulnerable. For some, this places them inside the bubble for long periods of time. In fact, they can become so ensconced that even psychiatric medications and support cannot lower the overwhelming feelings of fear, dread, and anxiety. Instead, they become trapped.

Though medications and traditional therapies may be ineffective, there is one method that can help these individuals. That is community empathy.

Empathy is a concerned response to another individual’s feelings. To have empathy, one must be able to notice and understand others’ feelings and reflect that understanding back to them. “Community empathy” is the same but in social groups, families, and communities.

Right now, more than ever, we need to be empathetic to those around us. We need to understand that many are uncertain, afraid, and suffering too. Instead of reacting with uncontrolled emotion and volatility, we must try and respond with empathy as individuals, as a community, and as a nation.

If we are to emotionally survive this pandemic, we must be able to recognize our vulnerabilities and those of others.  When people are suffering, they don’t need criticism and/or rejection. They need empathic and non-critical listening.

A comforting smile, head nod, or kind word can go a long way in comforting others.

Yet many who have retreated into their bubble are stuck and have no plans on exiting any time soon.  For those of us on the outside looking in, we need to be aware of their fear and comfort in that space.

Reaching into someone else’s bubble can be risky. It must be attempted with patience and care. Just as one can piece a soap bubble without popping it, it must be done slowly and with great patience and care.

Remember, the more we criticize those who are suffering, the stronger the bubble grows.  Be mindful of those who are retreating into these safe areas. Also, be mindful of your own.  

The bubble is a temporary space into which we all must retreat at times. Like our homes now, one must eventually walk back out once the fear and uncertainly has passed.

Stay safe and wear a mask.

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Dr. Lauro Amezcua-Patino

Dr. Lauro Amezcua-Patino is the clinical voice of The Only You (Solo Tu), a Podcast dedicated to simplifying the complex issues of the mind and mental illness. Originally from Mexico, he has been in clinical practice in the Metropolitan Phoenix Area for over 30-years.

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